this is for my perfectionists...

Circle up, my perfectionist friends.

Perfection is beautiful. Our brains want us to strive for and achieve it. We think everyone benefits when it's perfect. We're proud of the work we do. We just want to do our best - which is such a great intention.

But I know from experience, perfection also wreaks havoc - through pressure + time.

Pressure comes into play when we think it has to be perfect - and when it has to be perfect or else it's not worth doing. That's a lot of pressure on ourselves - and this leads to avoidance and anxiety.

Not to mention, perfection eats up our time. Because in order for it to be perfect, we have to commit a lot of time. Which also leads to more avoidance and anxiety.

Because when it has to be perfect, the pressure and time commitment feels daunting and we spin in anxious waiting - it's hard to start. It's hard to motivate ourselves to get it done. And then we beat ourselves up for what we should be doing.

One small example is my brand colors - when I first started my private practice I had the hardest time picking brand colors. What was the perfect pick? How do I know? What if they're not perfect together? My brain avoided making a decision. I lost sleep being anxious about "horrendous" color combinations. It may seem silly to say, but I was stuck in perfectionism. Anddd colors are so subjective, I felt like there was no way out.

It took me 3 weeks to decide. And I had to really sit down with myself and coach myself on being okay with whatever I picked. That I'd spent enough time on my colors. That done was better than perfect. And that I could change them at any time.

This permission slip helped me move forward - just make a decision and know that's enough.

So if you're in perfectionist mode, try this out. And if you want more support, I've been there, friend. Reach out.